I wish he would grow up already!!!

My spouse has never picked our son up from school for over 2 years, taken him to doctor appointments (he has at least 6 on a good month), has not volunteered to give him a bath or learn about any of his medical issues. But today went to the school and picked him up (no call, no text, nothing) and smirked when I suggested he text or call me if he plans to do this in the future. Am I wrong for going off on him? And telling him to stop being a butthole and think of someone other than himself.